CNM / Polyamorous Relationship Counseling

Consensual non-monogamy (CNM) / polyamory / open relationships are all unique and share the common thread of change.

Whether you’re shifting from monogamy to CNM or from one form of CNM to another, that’s a lot of change. And change can be challenging. Think about it. What kind of stuff comes up for you when something big is changing in your life? All the hard stuff. Fear. Anxiety. Insecurities. Juggling practical challenges, racing thoughts, emotional and attachment triggers. All the unknown feels like too much sometimes.

When relationships open up or change forms, you suddenly have to build and practice new skills. Learning to navigate uncomfortable situations and emotions in yourself and in your partners. Putting your diplomat skills to practice – balancing the needs of everyone, communicating effectively, and managing conflict. And then you need to carry out those agreements in practical ways with at least some amount of consistency. Whew. It can feel overwhelming.

I offer a space where you can create security in your relationships, whether you come alone, with one partner, or with multiple partners.

Together, we’ll explore all of your current relationship dynamics and the past traumas or early childhood attachment wounds that impact your relationships today. I’ll empower you with the knowledge and skills you need to be able to craft the unique relationships that work for you, based on your specific needs and desires. This includes working with challenging emotions and triggers, learning effective communication skills, navigating conflict, tending to differing needs with care, building relationship security, and more.

If you’re curious about the modalities I use, you can find more information here.

I warmly welcome people with diverse identities, backgrounds, & relationship structures. I am affirming of people who are transgender, gender expansive, non-binary, intersex, queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, monogamous, polyamorous, open, & consensually non-monogamous (CNM). I am committed to offering social justice-informed & sex-positive therapy.